The following definition was taken from Wikipedia.com:
Hatred is a word to describe immense feelings of dislike toward a person, a group or a thing. An intense feeling towards someone or something, wanting to kill, harm or avoid a person or thing, in feelings of dislike.
An all consuming emotion, a person consumed by hatred is not thinking rationally and will feel a compulsion to do terrible things.
I was brought up knowing the word hate was not to be used. I was taught the word hate was so strong that you would be willing to kill that something you hated. A little over the top....maybe but when I read the above description of hatred I felt my parents reasoning justified.
There are only a few instances in which I could use the word hate. If something was done to my children or husband in a malicious way I am sure I would find myself consumed with hate. The definition would fit because I could imagine myself wanting to kill or harm that person or persons.
Today on LP, a lady posted about HATING women that just blink and get pregnant. Though she is struggling with infertility I found the use of the word hate rather strong and was surprised to find a response after mine encouraging her to use that word.
I am wondering if I am alone in my thought process. Do you use the word hate freely?? What do you hate??
6 comments:
I tell my kids that 'hate' is a bad word, like other four letter words they're not allowed to say. It's mean and it hurts people's feelings.
Although, I do remember feeling a bit hostile sometimes when I tried for so long to get pregnant with Sammy and experienced a really bad miscarriage. So I guess I do understand to an extent. Although I'm sure a better word than 'hate' could be used.
Hate isn't a word I use very often, not that I notice anyway.
That aside, I can't begin to imagine how difficult it must be to have to face the emotional impact of not being able to conceive. Infertility - whether with a first child or secondary infertility must be just unbearable. To have to face babies and children day in and day out EVERYWHERE - on tv, in magazines, in stores, in playgrounds, on the computer, in your family......I just can't imagine what that does to you and know that your body is a ticking clock and there is nothing you can do.
So as much as I don't choose to use that word, I can quite understand how someone can be brought to say though things. I can quite understand that lady and all I can say is that she makes me feel so very very fortunate to be in my position of being Mom to 5 very happy and healthy children.
She doesn't really hate us - she hates her situation is all.
I think I could well feel the same in that situation too - I think its very understandable and very human to be honest.
As you already know(and have mentioned).......I HATE the word HATE.....plain & simple!!!
I have no clue of who you are referring to....what I don't understand is why anyone would hate/dislike/or be angered by another being for the simple reason they are able to acheive something she cannot.......that makes no sense to me!!!
Many can achieve what I cannot, and I can achieve much that others cannot.......I sure hope we don't need to HATE each other!!!
Will she teach her children to hate people that are different from her by what they can achieve(or by simply being different)??
I find it is a word that shouldn't be thrown around so lightly, as it is very powerful. Especially online when tone can't be read. I was a bit taken aback when I read the post, too. While I get that the people who have struggled with fertility issues have some pretty strong emotions, saying I'm hated for not have the same conception problems seems harsh. Hate the situation, don't hate me.
I'm with you, I avoid the word and don't tolerate my boys using it!
I'm so glad I'm not on LP anymore, I didn't realize all the extra stress I was letting it cause me till I left.
I never really thought about the impact of using the word HATE...I can't think of many things at the moment that I strongly dislike or hate...but I never was raised with it being a bad word...I had a lot of bad words to choose from growing up and to be honest...hate was minor. I try to not have potty mouth but sometimes it slips and the F bomb just seems to fly out...lol....I do appreciate your point of view and it will be something I am more conscious of in my language. :)
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